You obviously have never had to sit with a lvoed one and write and advanced health care directive. If you do not have one in place the doctors will do what they want. These are legitamate questions that are asked a person when they are rational and can consider all options.
This is not an out of line set of questions. They have been asaked for decades. Families who care how their loved ones are treated should have these discussions NOW. You can paint this anyway you want but all medical care these days depends upon advance care directives —— if you do not have one you better be lucid when you hit the hospital else wise they will do what they want
From the above list:
m. I can no longer think clearly -- I am confused all the time.
n. I no longer recognize family/friends.
How can you defend your position with these two specifics included? Because they've included a "Can't answer now" option??
I understand your point about making certain you have considered things long before you may actually get to this point, make certain your spouse, family know your feelings regarding extraordinary measures, Do Not Resuscitate, etc., but to offer this under the rubric of one being a burden to his family, life worth living, I'm sorry, I just see this as cruel. It looks to be suggesting thought rather than inquiring of it.
Glad you are NOT related to me!
Never write an "advanced care directive." You really don't know how you'll feel when push comes to shove. Instead, fill out a Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care, giving power to make health care decisions to someone you trust to look out for your welfare. They can make decisions for you, instead of you being bullied into agreeing to have the plug pulled, when you're weak and confused.
I've been there. When my first wife was dieing, they couldn't wait. They urged me to let them pull the plug on her. In her weakness, she might have let herself be bullied into it. I didn't put up with the bullying. She died peacefully when God was ready to call her.