[Kimmers]

I agree with you....Writing down thoughts or feelings can be helpful to some and if people feel the need to write something or leave a memento it might be better to keep a journal,l date it and write their thoughts and store the mementos that way.....

[LizardQueen]

Yes.. Or stand at the grave and read it (or put laminate it and weight it down with a rock or something).

My grandmother died before my wedding. I thought about leaving an invite on her grave but for multiple reasons (security reason, the garbage factor, etc) decided not to.

Instead I sat there and read it to her then brought it back home with me. Cried a lot too.

LQ