They come to all of the family functions. No problems, as they do not do any demonstrative behavior so as far as the grandkids know, they are just good friends.
I appreciate this, and have no problem with them. In fact, they are always welcome in my home because they are funny and always bring great wine and fancy home made baked goods.
I am balancing a fine line here between my faith and my family, since this is my sister's son and we all love him. I pray for some sort of solution while welcoming them as cherished people.
This is how I think situations like this should be handled. I don't know what I would do in a situation like you were faced with. Very unfortunate, and dare I say...TACKY?
I know it’s kind of late in the day to respond here but your post brings up yet ANOTHER day in the life of Fishtalk...who just walks thru life all innocent like....
Husband’s family lives in Massachusetts. Husband’s brother is married to a woman who has a sister that everyone has been very suspicious about her relationship with her “roommate”. Still and so, though these two have been a pair of roomies for yay many years there was never anything untoward or inappropriate said, acted or told. Husband’s brother has one child, a son, seven years old, with his wife, the sister of this female with the long time roommate.
Then Massachusetts you know, went and made same sex marriages legal. Now the roomies want to get married, complete with big wedding and all the froufrou.
First, we wonder about their relationship no more I must suppose. Second, husband’s brother is about beside himself, wanting long ago to get the hell out of Massachusetts cause let’s face it folks, that’s got to be one awful state to try and raise a young child in. Home of Barney Frank, Ted Kennedy and all that....heh.
But husband’s brother’s wife is firmly an Italian long-term resident of Massachusetts and she ain’t moving anywhere.
Second, husband’s brother is deeply religious, the wife is Catholic, the boy is raised in the church. Husband’s brother is distraught over this turn of events, as one may imagine.
Last I heard, neither husband’s brother, OR his wife so far (sister, please recall, of one of the “roommates”), or my mother-in-law, who is liberal and voted for Obama but she don’t like this gay marriage thing a bit, last I heard they’re NOT going to this debauchery event. My brother-in-law is a really nice guy. My heart aches for him. I don’t think for a minute his wife will abandon her sister but we shall see. My MIL...well who knows. she HATED Sarah Palin, loved Obama and watches MSNBC like a religion. But she says she’s not going. She’s close to this family as her son invites to all those family events being the only one of her 3 children left in Mass.
MIL told me that Mike, my BIL, has got a promise that there will never be any discussion of this “marriage” bit, or demonstration of same. Yeah....like this is going to happen.
After my experience on this 4th of July with two complete lesbian strangers to me, I don’t for one minute believe that this 7 year old boy will never be exposed to any of this, I got a bridge to sell Michael my BIL.
Anyway, THIS story has that family tied up in knots and my heart just aches, it just aches. That boy, the last Fish with that name, is such a cute All-American type kid.
Who knows how this is all going to turn out?