Again, you’re right, she did not ask for an apology.
However, to me, in communications or correspondence, if something I say is offensive to another person, I apologize.
If I step on someone’s toes (literally or figuratively) I apologize.
I don’t wait to be asked.
I was taught that this is part of “polite company”.
(although, if after extending polite niceties, I am further rebuffed, I will likely respond in kind)
I also do not care about “some Dem Lobbyist”.
Nor do I care about Dem Jim McDermott’s secretary.
You brought up the point about manners.
That’s what I’m commenting on.
And, as far as your manners comment, I agree with you!
Dosen’t it sound like typical DC game playing? No wonder few good people run for election. Who wants to jump in a cesspit?