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I want to ask you people something: would those of you calling her "heartless" and "selfish" be saying so if she decided to keep the baby? I will be the first to tell you I dont support abortion either, but the fact that she is heartsick at the notion of a stranger raising HER BLOOD KIN apparently revolts you people too. ADOPTION IS NOT A CURE. I do not approve of abortion. It is NEVER wrong to choose life. But frankly Im tired of self-righteous boobs saying that a person is selfish because she doenst toss her baby the way of adopters (like THATS such a frikkin' easy decision, yeah, baby!). The same people who say she is a selfish person are teh same people who automatically call an adoptee who 'acts up' an "ungrateful child who should be THANKFUL" that their BLOOD KIN handed them over to SELFISH SELF-RIGHTEOUS NON-BLOOD KIN.

Adoption s*cks just as hard for the child as abortion does.

If adoption “sucks just as hard for the child as abortion does,” as you say, how do you know?
It is impossible to interview an aborted fetus to ask her feelings on the matter.

Wouldn’t it be fairer to let the child be adopted, and later, if she wishes she had been aborted, she can off herself? Or, perhaps, there is some hope that her life won’t suck, after all. Since she only gets one life to live, why not let her have that small chance at joy?

I don’t think any freeper who posted to this article was implying that adoption is the preferred solution in all cases. Obviously, the preferred solution in the case of pregnancy is for the conception to take place in a stable, loving, committed relationship between a husband and wife who have the means to provide a stable, nuturing home for the child.

However, ours is an imperfect world, necessitating imperfect solutions. Adoption is one of the solutions to the issue, as is single parenthood, and marrying the guy who biologically donated to the baby.

I for one do not believe a single parent environment is a great solution. (And, I can say that, because I am the product of that environment.) And, there is a very high probablility that marrying the donor would eventually revert to a single parent home.

I do believe having a nuclear family, the same plan the Good Lord gave us in the Good Book, really is the best solution. But, I must respectfully disagree that adoption should be the option of last resort. I many cases the ultimate act of love is to relinquish claim to your biological child so that more capable, better equipped and situated loving people can raise the child they have longed for for so long.

Great love will always sacrifice self-interest to the benefit of another.

would those of you calling her "heartless" and "selfish" be saying so if she decided to keep the baby?

No, because she wouldn't have killed another human being just to spare her own feelings.

I will be the first to tell you I dont support abortion either, but the fact that she is heartsick at the notion of a stranger raising HER BLOOD KIN apparently revolts you people too.

How could you possibly have misunderstood. Try actually reading the posts. The issue is not that she was having these feelings. The issue is that she CLAIMED to have these feelings, then went and killed the child she CLAIMED to care about.

But frankly Im tired of self-righteous boobs saying that a person is selfish because she doenst toss her baby the way of adopters

Again, read the posts. Not one person is having a fit about that. The issue is that this woman claims to be all warm and fuzzy toward this child, then KILLS IT.

Adoption s*cks just as hard for the child as abortion does.

So being raised by someone who loves you is the same as being torn limb from limb? Good grief, you're one mixed up person.

Adoption s*cks just as hard for the child as abortion does.

I usually tell the glowing story of my daughter's decision to have her father-less but not spermless baby and give him up for adoption. We located him at the age of 21, two years ago.

All the promises the adopting couple made to my daughter flew right out the window. They told him nothing. They told him when he asked that she didn't want to see him. They didn't give him any of the things we'd sent along for him when he was of age. They didn't even keep the outfit we sent him off in . . . a Cabbage Patch outfit. When he was 18, he had a lot of problems with his adoptive parents because he wanted to contact his birth mother and was sent to stay with his maternal grandparents.

When he turned 21, I located him on MySpace and the rest is history.

My daughter now says, after getting to know him and the problems he has had and gone through, that if she had to do it over again, she'd keep him. The "idyllic" two parent family turned out to be less ideal than we were assured it would be. They told every lie in the book to get a baby because they wanted a baby. They made all kinds of promises knowing they weren't going to keep them because they wanted a baby. (And these are Assembly of God ministers.)

I haven't had time to get to know him. He's getting married the end of the month. Eventually he will be changing his MOS and be on a base in NC. Hopefully, he and I can "reconnect" and I'll have the same grandmotherly sympathies for him as I have the other five. Giving away a first grandson is very very hard emotionally. Maybe I should have just told my daughter NO, we're not giving him away. But at the time, that's what she had her heart set on.

Adoption s*cks just as hard for the child as abortion does. AGREED.

Adoption s*cks just as hard for the child as abortion does.

Nonsense.

As bad a life can be sometimes, most people—the vast majority—will cling to it. Very few people commit suicide, even those who are suffering great pain.

Based on that observation, I think we can safely conclude that babies, if given the choice, would prefer adoption over abortion. Of course, those who describe themselves as pro-choice don't actually believe in giving the baby a choice in the matter.