We just found out today that friends of ours are having real trouble. Their daughter has been a problem for the last year (drugs, running away, not going to school). She left home for good in Dec, the day after her 18th birthday. Even though she was 6 months away from graduating, she didn't enroll in school and now she is pregnant.
The parents were united when she left. Unless she truly wanted to turn things around and had proof of that, she wasn't coming back. Period.
But with the baby, now mom wants to give in and help her and raise the baby. Dad is firm that she needs to experience reality before she'll be ready to change. He knows that she'll use that baby to manipulate them forever if they let her.
Logically, I see his point. But the reality would have to be, no more daughter, ever. No grandkid, ever. Because once that baby is in your life, how do you not move heaven and earth to do what you can? The mother is now in an impossible spot because dad says no help to daughter or the younger girls and I are out of here.
In this environment, God help that baby if she decides to keep it. Even watching from the sidelines breaks my heart.
Prayers for your friend and her family, Dianna!
That’s a difficult situation for sure. She may use the baby to manipulate the parents (grandparents). I’ve seen it done.
It is heartbreaking.
I can see this scenario with that niece I mentioned. It wouldn’t surprise me.
Again if there wasn’t welfare/government help, there may not be this problem. Other problems for sure, but not to the extent there appears to be now.
I don’t know what the answer is. I figure I have no control over anything or anyone but my own kids and then only to the extent that I teach them right.