But who is to decide that? Who should decide if they are responsible? Or good parents?
If everyone lived according to my rules, we’d all be better off. I’m just not willing to let the government or anyone else decide what’s the best way.
I’d like to tell my niece’s parents that their kid is a train wreck and needs major help. For family harmony, I keep my mouth shut and just deal with it when they drop her off on some weekends. Would she have been better off being adopted years ago? Not in my opinion. For the record, her mother wasn’t married and isn’t married to her father. Her mother isn’t a blood relative. This kid has major problems but she has our family and her mother’s family. Our family is the step family. If nothing else, the kid knows she’s loved and has family who loves her.
Of course, it should be the people involved who decide that. No one here has mentioned any government involvement.
Would she have been better off being adopted years ago? Not in my opinion.
All you say about the mother is that she didn't marry the father. Is she a mature, loving and caring parent? You say the kid has problems. Are they because of her family?
I just have a really hard time saddling innocent babies with parents who are selfish morons. Even if I am caring for them full-time, the people who are supposed to love them the most are still idiots. Adoption is a risk because you don't know what you're going to get, but I think a lot of times it can be a risk worth taking.