Of course, it should be the people involved who decide that. No one here has mentioned any government involvement.
Would she have been better off being adopted years ago? Not in my opinion.
All you say about the mother is that she didn't marry the father. Is she a mature, loving and caring parent? You say the kid has problems. Are they because of her family?
I just have a really hard time saddling innocent babies with parents who are selfish morons. Even if I am caring for them full-time, the people who are supposed to love them the most are still idiots. Adoption is a risk because you don't know what you're going to get, but I think a lot of times it can be a risk worth taking.
I agree that sometimes adoption is a risk worth taking.
I don’t know if she was a mature, loving parent for the first 10 ten yrs of the kid’s life. The kid has major problems now as a 16 yr old. But I look at my oldest brother and his two sons, major issues there too, but in the end it all worked out.
The mother’s family is freaky, imo. But they helped raise their granddaughter. My nephew married into the family so she’s our family now too.
I roll my eyes at much that goes on.