The concept behind abstinence is pretty serious - and even if someone doesn’t see the point (which tells me a lot about their heart), it is the only foolproof method of preventing pregnancy. Also a pretty darned good way to prevent sexually transmitted diseases.
But considering that keeping oneself sexually “pure” until marriage is more than just a nice or fanciful thought. It really is a gift to your future spouse and “help-mate”.
And just because someone does not wait until marriage does not make them a “bad person”, nor does it necessarily reflect bad parenting. But parenting can impact a young person’s decisions - including their decision regarding pre-marital sex.
I have a great deal of respect for anyone - male or female - who has the intestinal fortitude and willpower (and usually the spiritual strength) to abstain until married. And the concept is not unreasonable.
And I probably have a lot more in common with your husband than I would like to admit...
“And I probably have a lot more in common with your husband than I would like to admit...” And yet, my husband is the best person I know.
I was a virgin when I got married. I dated tons, social butterfly, etc. As a teen, what was the point? Didnt’ want to get pregnant, didn’t want to disappoint my mother. One just didn’t have sex before marriage.
My husband now has 4 daughters. Poetic justice maybe ;) His take is always “teen boys are bad, they want sex all the time no matter what they say, don’t have sex” Then they get the other side from me, boys aren’t bad, no one is going to convince you to do anything you don’t want to do, etc.
The concept isn’t unreasonable per se. But for me, way back, I abstained because it was huge. I wasn’t ready for all it entailed. Then when I met my husband in college, it was more difficult. And very difficult to abstain.
The state of abstinence until marriage (and I agree that it’s best), was much easier to maintain many years ago, when most of society supported it and did it. Very tough today, and for many years now when the circumstance is the complete opposite. Anyone who does abstain until marriage in the current sexualized climate should be greatly respected, agreed.