I'm not sure I agree. If the young people involved are basically responsible kids who screwed up but are willing to try to be good parents with the help of their parents, I do agree.
But if it's slacker mom and loser dad wandering their way through life...as good a grandma as I may be, I'm not going to make up for them. To decide that a child is going to have to deal with having two idiots for parents because the child is MY blood and I insist on keeping him/her, well, I think sometimes the kid is well rid of his/her parents.
But who is to decide that? Who should decide if they are responsible? Or good parents?
If everyone lived according to my rules, we’d all be better off. I’m just not willing to let the government or anyone else decide what’s the best way.
I’d like to tell my niece’s parents that their kid is a train wreck and needs major help. For family harmony, I keep my mouth shut and just deal with it when they drop her off on some weekends. Would she have been better off being adopted years ago? Not in my opinion. For the record, her mother wasn’t married and isn’t married to her father. Her mother isn’t a blood relative. This kid has major problems but she has our family and her mother’s family. Our family is the step family. If nothing else, the kid knows she’s loved and has family who loves her.