As a person who waited til marriage, big freakin deal. My husband didn’t wait until marriage and he’s the best person I know.
As someone who did practice abstinence, it ain’t easy. Have you never been in the heat of the moment? I seriously wonder how some of you have grown up. I had the best parents a child could ask for but I sure as hell wasn’t perfect. My husband could be considered a manwhore if we look at his teenage/college years. It’s not his parent’s fault just like it aint’ my parents fault for the mistakes I made as a teen.
The concept behind abstinence is pretty serious - and even if someone doesn’t see the point (which tells me a lot about their heart), it is the only foolproof method of preventing pregnancy. Also a pretty darned good way to prevent sexually transmitted diseases.
But considering that keeping oneself sexually “pure” until marriage is more than just a nice or fanciful thought. It really is a gift to your future spouse and “help-mate”.
And just because someone does not wait until marriage does not make them a “bad person”, nor does it necessarily reflect bad parenting. But parenting can impact a young person’s decisions - including their decision regarding pre-marital sex.
I have a great deal of respect for anyone - male or female - who has the intestinal fortitude and willpower (and usually the spiritual strength) to abstain until married. And the concept is not unreasonable.
And I probably have a lot more in common with your husband than I would like to admit...