I’m trying to come up with a short statement of why there’s no hope for the author (and her friends) but nothing seems better than what you said. They’re totally self-centered. It puzzles me that people who are clearly unhappy and dissatisfied would persist in saying they don’t need anyone else. If they were really self-sufficient, they’d be happy as they are.
I think part of their problem is expressed in the statement, “I don’t need a man,” where “a man” is a concept, rather than a person. I don’t need “a man,” either. I need my husband, and my children need their father. His earning a salary, and the household activities he accomplishes, are things I could do and have done. He could do laundry and sweep floors, if I didn’t. However, those are just the tip-of-the-iceberg aspects of being married for 20 year and having 9 children.
Funny thing about these women who’ve been indoctrinated with “I don’t need a man” - they invariably vote for the gov’t to be their provider, security, and protector.
God gave us roles based on our sexes for a good reason. It’s for our own good.