Aha. What’s behind the Iranian culture part of the question you asked is your own experience.
Were you in Iran/Azerbaijan during Aashura?
Infact in 1924 an attending American diplomat Imbrie was killed brutally by the "devout"... with the consequence that Reza Shah prohibited the procession of Ashura until 1941.
I considered the procession to be numbing and appalling. I avoided it ever since and preferred the company of sane Iranians. The nightlife in Iran during the 1970's was more my cup of tea. ;^)