I don’t know. That’s why I’m asking. The premise of the article, and of many comments, seems to be that men’s need for sex is purely biological, physical, ejaculatory. “If he doesn’t void his prostate on a regular basis, he could go insane.” (That’s from a thread on Mr. Prager’s previous article on this subject.)
So, I don’t know. Can a man have a desire for physical intimacy that doesn’t involve ejaculation? That is the question.
Which makes one wonder about guys who HAVE to go without sex for a duration. What about their prostates?
First, it surprises me somewhat that you would so perfunctorily tell me that you don't know. Maybe many women don't know, or just aren't sure. My wife doesn't know, either.
About the premise of the article - Prager's second sentence of this article says that men should understand that all sexual encounters shouldn't be expected to end in intercourse. I agree with that. But I'm also a guy, so the more, the better, if you get my drift.
I personally don't buy this premise that men's needs are purely or only biological and physical. It's blatantly obvious that all that is PART of it. But if that's all it is then that makes us, the human race, nothing but animals. Pretty much the polar opposite of being made in God's image.
Your question seems to discount any part of a man's desire to share an emotional, as well as physical, bond with his wife. Like if a guy can just take a couple of minutes and relieve the physical pressure he's feeling, then that's all he's interested in. Hell, let's be honest - I don't need ANY woman for that, if that's the only immediate goal I have.
It's like women claiming they have no physical need of sex; it's only the emotional connection they are seeking. I think that's far too one-dimensional of an answer for either sex to claim.
For me - and I won't claim to speak for men everywhere - I'm also seeking the emotional bond along with the physical, when I'm trying to make love to my wife. I can tell her until I'm blue in the face. But no matter how weak or strong my wordsmithing skills are, they are still just words. Even if completly heartfelt...guys are more about action. So I want to show her.
I want her to see in my eyes that I'm delighted with the woman I've chosen to make a life with. I want her to see and feel how proud I am that she chose a life with me, forsaking all others. I want to display to her, with whatever passion and intensity that I can bring to the experience that I've rejected all others, so to share these times and moments with her alone. That she's exceedingly special and important to me in so many more ways than I could ever speak in words, and that she's my earthly treasure. I want to put aside all the world's distractions for a time and build the best physical and emotional bond that I'm capable of, for as long as the moment can last.
Ask another man, if my words don't convince you.