Posted on 12/29/2008 11:11:17 PM PST by goldstategop
LOL! Oh gosh. Now I have to read the entire thread.
Maybe it will be a fun thread? ;) It has to be, it’s about sex :)
No tears allowed. I am the guy that’s made it a point to make his bride laugh at least once every single day from the first day we met.
Heck, last year while I was being made ready to be wheeled in for heart surgery, I asked her to please get my fishing gear ready. LOL
When I woke up after surgery and was informed that I had suffered a stroke (mostly recovered now), I told her that it’s going to be tough to eat with utensils and asked her to order out for pizza. ;>)
If couples tried to make each other laugh at least once a day, they might be surprised at how different life can be.
I think you may be kin on my daddy’s side of the family! ; )
Fun?
Maybe not, but You have a great sense of what make the genders work and your input is rock solid!
>>...and so was doing her best to make you grumpy enough to give her the reaction she wanted to provoke.<<
You are right. But she failed. In fact, she was telling people I had an “anger problem”, yet one of my friends families, on a camping trip (that last year), saw her go on an uncontrolled tyrade simply because I didn’t go fetch her water exactly the way she wanted me to. My friend and his wife were dumbfounded.
Interestingly, some of her friends spouses (men) counselled me on what I could do to get her back and how I needed to change my ways. One actually told me that I needed to give her money whenever she asked for it. Dead serious.
Oh, and the epilog is black comedy at its best. Within five years, every single one of those men came to me, unsolicited, and apologized for taking the stand they did and confirmed that I had actually been the “good guy” in this.
But wait! It gets better! All but one of those men was divorced by his wife. And every single one of those women USED THE SAME ATTORNEY MY EX USED!
The one who is still married is now a friend of mind. And so is his wife.
Time brings clarity.
;>)
As an occasional thing, sure. As a chronic condition, it turns into an indication that it's time to move on.
I have a feeling that these women were being "supportive" of each other, psyching each other up that they could do better than stay married to the guys they currently had. Did any of them remarry to anybody better, or have they degenerated into a bitter circle of angry harridans?
Thank you :) I call that normal ;)
Started reading. Read the first part a couple weeks or so ago. VERY interesting.
Seriously, though, people divorce in their minds long before they make up the papers.
I can’t stand it, I have to tell another one.
Ok, I truly am a full blooded guy, yes, like the ones that once lived in caves.
Now I wasn’t ever a complete slob, but many years ago, I did have a bad habit of tossing my socks on the floor at night. She mentions it to me and I continue. She moves the hamper out where it would be handier, I try, but like all habits, I start tossing them again and she quit bring the subject up.
She surprises me with a new puppy one day and within a week without a word, I am picking up my socks to keep that little rascal from chewing them to bits.
It was several months later that she springs it on me, I never had a clue... she bought the puppy because she knew I would keep the socks off of the floor to keep him from eating them. We have laugh about that for years... she is very special, and probably the only person on the planet that had any chance at successfully training me. LOL
First thing you said...not just about “mood” as that could range from the normal to the ridiculous. Way too much analyzing basic human behavior, imo.
LOL! ok, I do get the talk talk talk because sometimes I do talk talk talk.
Men and women are different just like people are different.
I like sex. I like making love. That’s normal. And sometimes I don’t need or want anything but the spur of the moment, quickie. And most of the time, I don’t need a reason or any “emotion” or “flowers and romance” stuff to get me in the mood. And sometimes, it takes me a bit more time to “get in the mood” and my husband makes sure he gets me in the mood. And 99% of the time, all it takes is him being in the mood or me being in the mood.
My husband does some of those romantic things. and they’re great, because he’s such an awesome person in every way and so giving. I don’t require them (but the food is great). I’m not a really romantic type person and rarely do the “romantic” thing.
Well said. We owe our spouse (both sides). Most of the time, that translates into what we want too.
When I woke up after surgery and was informed that I had suffered a stroke (mostly recovered now), I told her that it’s going to be tough to eat with utensils and asked her to order out for pizza. ;>)
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I’m sure you were in the mood for pizza!! lol I had my 3rd open heart about 8 yrs. ago (Ross Procedure) 25 % chance of making it. My EX flirted with the airline stewardess, complained about his back having to sleep on the couch in my room, and wouldn’t offer to get me a thing when he went to the snack room, offered no comfort and was worried about when I would be able to have sex.
I’m suppose to want to be intimate with THAT???
What a great husband!! sorry...ex-husband.
Way too much analyzing over something that is so enjoyable and fulfilling for so many.
Bless you and prayers on a steady recovery.
Talking and laughter is the best in a relationship. If one does not have that, there is no relationship.
We talk non stop. He has a warped sense of humor and I have a dry one. We laugh almost daily.
And just as many women complain about their men/husbands. I will never understand that.
You’re going from working out to being fat...almost like it’s an excuse for anyone to get fat. There’s a whole lot of in between.
Besides, working out takes at most an hour a day (30 minutes if one is good at it)...I sincerely doubt working out and getting fat has anything at all to do with the “problem” or time contraints.
Most of the time, that is all it’s takes...the look in his eye, the back and forth, the humor...
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