Posted on 12/29/2008 11:11:17 PM PST by goldstategop
Thanks, seriously. But one quick comment. You said: “And the men who have married them either have to deal with it, or get out, as you did.”
Funny part is, she kicked me out. I was literally removed from my own home “without cause” (legal term).
In the USA of all places.
I hate Family Court and, by association, the US government. I am a sleeper.
Too many stories from me and so many others I’ve talked to. It was wonderful for me though, in the long run. My three (now grown) daughters are finally seeming to do ok too.
But I digress...
“Marriage is the toughest role in the world and it takes a strong couple to make it last.”
I keep hearing people say this, but I have enjoyed marriage immensely, and I don’t find it all that difficult to treat my spouse with decency and respect. He doesn’t seem to find it difficult to do the same.
We continued “dating” after the marriage.
The things that sparked the flame before the wedding? They still work afterwards -and I can’t for the life of me understand why either the man or the woman would stop doing those little things that make the difference just because they are married.
well, I am not sure it is always a falling out of love becuase love is a decision. Sometimes it gets to a point feeling love for a person who is cruel to you hurts and then you decide not to love them. For an unselfish person, it becomes a matter of self preservation.
I need tissues!!! How sweet!
Because no woman wants to be used like a toilet.
yeah, so many feel like they can cruise on autopilot once the vows are said. Women wanting their men to “just know’ what they want and men who feel like the work was done once the girl said “ I do”. My soon to be ex always talked with friends about how much work a marriage takes and how communication was so important. So when we were home, he did nothing and did not talk to me.
How in the world did we have 7 kids! LOL
If a guy can’t keep some degree of his woman’s passion, then nothing is pretty much what he deserves.
If a wife isn't being inspired by her husband, and she knows this is preventing them from having a satisfying physical relationship, doesn't she have an obligation to bring this to his attention and help him become more of a Casanova?
>>Men can do this. Most women can’t.<<
I know you know I was joking with my previous comment, but I do believe your comment is correct.
I look at it this way: A man can send 500 men into battle knowing full well that at least 50 will be killed. It is much more difficult for a woman to do this, which is just one of the reasons there are few female leaders in ground combat (tv and movie fiction notwithstanding). A country who’s troops are led by women is almost certain to be overrun by more agressive nations.
The lack of a maternal instinct has its strengths.
>>Men can do this. Most women can’t.<<
I know you know I was joking with my previous comment, but I do believe your comment is correct.
I look at it this way: A man can send 500 men into battle knowing full well that at least 50 will be killed. It is much more difficult for a woman to do this, which is just one of the reasons there are few female leaders in ground combat (tv and movie fiction notwithstanding). A country who’s troops are led by women is almost certain to be overrun by more agressive nations.
The lack of a maternal instinct has its strengths.
“A good man has no “NOT IN THE MOOD “ experiences!”
Bingo.
The only time I haven’t found hubby to be very convincing was when I was on my sickbed.
>>Well, yeah, but if the man was equally considerate of the woman’s desire there’d be compromise in the middle—not it always the man’s wishes only.<<
Yes, I think that is really what Dennis is getting at here. Simply “not being in the mood” on it’s own simply is not acceptable, assuming the woman understands and takes her marriage vows seriously.
>>But he’s unwilling to accept women the way THEY are.<<
Actually, we don’t know that. It is not within the subject matter of the article. It is not discussed.
I’m sorry to hear she will soon be an ex.
One thing I’m noticing with friends is that either the man - the woman - sometimes both - are going through a strange mid-life thing.
They seem to want to prove they are still attractive to younger people and forget about their spouse.
It seems with some of the women they are getting restless and can’t seem to pinpoint what the problem is.
I sure hope we escape that one, because it’s scary to watch.
That’s exactly what he’s saying—and it repulses me.
If he thinks woman should be having sex when they are not in the mood because they are obligated to - then that tells me he does not want to accept women the way they are.
I agree that she should make a good effort - but to honestly ask them to just “put out” because it’s their “duty”?
Well - that message alone will stomp out alot of fires.
Well - that gave him a clue as to exactly how sick I was! LOL!
I agree. There are exceptions. There is abuse, etc. But by abuse, I mean SERIOUS abuse.
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