There’s a reason we have laws against suicide attempts, self-harm and spousal rape. Because people will and do abuse anything, even themselves.
My husband used to think the way that you do, but the FLDS child bride rapes made him rethink the issue.
Notice: Paul did not say that there could not be abuse, he encouraged abstinence and failing that, mutual giving, with concurrent agreement (or permission, consent).
>>My husband used to think the way that you do, but the FLDS child bride rapes made him rethink the issue.
I should be really clear that I am talking strictly of sex, not the violence. That is a completely different matter. If violence is involved, for me it is no longer rape (between a married couple) but it is assault and/or battery. I am just separating the egg white, yolk and shell. The raw sexual part of “rape” cannot be a part of “rape” between the partners of a marriage. Both granted permission on the altar.
Don’t get me wrong. I would NEVER force myself on my wife. But then, that is easy for me to say since I would never have to. It is, frankly, repugnant to me.