>>He makes married sex sound like something that is a given, paid for one time on the wedding day. <<
That puts him in good company, because it IS.
1 Corinthians 7: 1-7
Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.
Hocndoc, you could not be more wrong.
It is also why I believe the word rape has no meaning between a married couple. Rape is forced sex. Forced means without permission. She (and he) gave permission in their wedding vows. Now don’t get me wrong. A man who “forces” sex onto his wife is not acting in a loving way, but rape it aint.
There’s a reason we have laws against suicide attempts, self-harm and spousal rape. Because people will and do abuse anything, even themselves.
My husband used to think the way that you do, but the FLDS child bride rapes made him rethink the issue.
Notice: Paul did not say that there could not be abuse, he encouraged abstinence and failing that, mutual giving, with concurrent agreement (or permission, consent).