The common statement is that getting married kills a woman's sex drive (according the men who complain). It's not that we're not always in the mood, but being grabbed at like bread dough and expected to get all hot and bothered by it just isn't going to work. Just like before the marriage, women still like the attentiveness. The hair stroking, the sweetness, a kiss for no reason. Things that were done before getting married and often forgotten, but it's not deemed as necessary anymore. It might work wonders for both if couples remembered how things were when the first fell in love and kept working on that.
Because women do have high sex drives. It just works differently. (i.e., a man might get in the mood over any physical sensation. women tend to go more by the senses of sound, smell, and touch. which is why a sexy voice, cologne, or those cheesy love songs often work)
An interesting discussion here...
I doubt that there is one marriage on earth where the two individuals have libidos that are the same, or are in sync. This is just a fact of life.
Each couple has to work this out between them, with understanding and acceptance that marriage itself is a lifelong opportunity to learn how to better show love and affection to each other.
Love is action, not feeling.
Great points...