[dbz77]

Life is much, much more than gratifying the passions of the body.

It is more about measuring up to those around you, to those important to you, caring about what they think and how they feel.

I can understand if people choose to be chaste to impress the important ones in their lives, to measure up to them.

[vladimir998]

You wrote:

“It is more about measuring up to those around you,..”

Measuring up? Are you a 15 year old trading locker room “score” stories? Any MAN who thinks he doesn’t measure up to others in society just because he’s a virgin is no man at all.

If some 25 year old man told me he was a virgin I know exactly what my response would be: And?

[little jeremiah]

Those aren’t the reasons I meant at all. In fact, other peoples’ opinions are worth very little to me, unless that person is a mentor in some way. Not that I don’t care about people in my life - far from it.

But chastity is all about two things, or three, really:

1. Obedience to God, and thereby keeping one’s inner heart uncluttered from sinful reaction (aka “karma”) in order to more clearly hear His voice from within
2. Respect for one’s own body - since it is a gift from God and in the highest sense, a temple
3. Similar respect for others, by not treating them as a sexual toy

[NittanyLion]

It is more about measuring up to those around you, to those important to you, caring about what they think and how they feel.

If someone thinks less of you because you're not having casual sex, than their opinion should hold no weight in the first place.