The first thought of somebody who has small hands, or problems with handling recoil, is to buy a small gun.
The smallest of semi-automatic guns tend to use a very strong spring to hold the chamber closed during firing. This makes them harder to operate than a slightly larger gun equipped with a locking chamber.
What is often needed is a small cartridge fired from the largest gun that the person can hold comfortably. The extra weight of the gun itself absorbs some of the energy of recoil, reducing the impact on the hands.
A five-shot, short-barreled, .357 hammerless revolver is a pretty simple "point-and-shoot" device. The recoil can be reduced by firing .38 special ammunition. If you can find a friend who owns one or rent one, you can determine if that is still too much recoil.
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