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Posted on 07/30/2008 6:23:52 AM PDT by Coffee200am
Well, that's their problem. They need to get over it. Some things in life are multi-use and if a man's egos can't handle that, well.... anything else I'd have to say about it is only likely to get me flamed.
Oh you guys are just teasin’ :o)
Yes, he did. But it took him a good while to get over it.
It's not a lack of love, it's a simple unconscious reaction to biological functions. It's nothing to condemn anyone over. :-)
1. Who asked you into this particular exchange?
2. If you're going to get after my butt, do it about something I actually said -- not something you want to make up to gripe about.
3. And, I might pay some attention to a smiley if there is one there -- not something that looks like the poster screwed up his/her punctuation.
4. Just don't make up bilge about what I say, and then make sarcastic remarks about the words you falsely attribute to me -- that way there will be no need for either of us to "lighten up."
Hello my baby, hello my honey, hello my ragtime gal!
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So you went through all that hell, and you get upset because you see a little bit of natural healthy blood, feces, and mucus coming out of a woman’s body along with a slightly slimy baby? And you think it’s “silly and selfish” for a woman to want her husband with her so she doesn’t have to go through the pain and fear of bringing HIS child into the world alone? This is inconceivable (no pun intended). If you’ve seen all that horror it’s very odd that you should consider the natural products of childbirth to be so disgusting.
P.S. I worked at a VA hospital, too.
Yup, I was proud of Mr. OTTBmare for staying with me through two Cs. He was a big help. I was scared--the first one was an emergency--and I did not have a relative or girlfriend within a thousand miles, so he was elected. I'll always be grateful. Besides, we got some great pictures out of it. Not pretty, but childbirth isn't supposed to be pretty; it's the way nature is.
Besides they generally position the father at the mother's head, he generally doesn't actually see the baby coming out of the ninny. :)
OTOH, I'm not sure I could have managed what my son in law did, being there for *two* cesarean sections, the second one five weeks early and resulting in two babies coming out, the first after a long and exhausting labor. I was at the hospital for both, and in the labor room for part of the first one, but not in the operating /delivery room.
Actually, I wasn't in the room when that daughter was born, but only because in '74 in Oklahoma it was doctor's option and our doctor didn't have the duty that weekend and his partner wouldn't let me in the room. But I was there in the birthing room for her younger sister's arrival.
Where do you people come up with this kind of twisted twaddle?
I did not say it "upsets" me. I said it is a nasty and messy. I did not enjoy looking at it, and never voluntarily did so. And you know what? I don't enjoy sitting around looking at a little bit of natural healthy blood, feces, and mucus coming out of a woman’s body either. And I definitely wouldn't ever do it voluntarily.
And you think it’s “silly and selfish” for a woman to want her husband with her so she doesn’t have to go through the pain and fear of bringing HIS child into the world alone?
I didn't say that either. And it is silly and selfish for a woman, or anyone of either sex, to demand that someone else watch anything that they find so abhorent, or which willl turn off their normal sex drive w/ the almost certain ruination of their marriage.
This is inconceivable (no pun intended). If you’ve seen all that horror it’s very odd that you should consider the natural products of childbirth to be so disgusting.
What would expect my reaction to be? Oh, Boy, look at all that beautifully colorful blood, appetizing mucus, and odoriferous feces all over the place? And, listen to those lovely melodious screams? Yum, yum -- looks like I'm just time for the dinner soup course? Sorry, not for me.
But then, you worked in a VA Hospital, didn't you? So I guess you enjoyed the pain and suffering hidden away behind those walls. Well, I didn't like it. it was horrible, and often downright disgusting. And I will stay as far from that kind of stuff as I can get for the rest of my life, if I can avoid it. So you can come on with all you tut-tuting you want -- I don't give a _____. Just learn to quote me correctly when you try again.
I’m extremely sorry that you had to witness and endure all those horrors in the service of your country. It must have been a very long military career if you were serving in wartime London, circa 1940-41, and also in Vietnam. As you must be nearly twice my age, your age alone requires my respect, your service even more, and I owe you humble thanks. I can understand why witnessing burned people would make you unwilling ever to see anything horrible again.
But as a mother with a lot of hours of labor, childbirth, and surgery under her belt, I just don’t think it’s horrible to see; childbirth represents joy, hope, life, and a magnificent victory over all the evil and death that war represents. It should be celebrated instead of regarded with revulsion.
If a man wants to end his marriage just because he had to see his wife’s vagina widely stretched and the products of conception emerging from it, one suspects there were things deeply wrong with the marriage long before the childbirth.
You have your opinion, and I have mine. Let’s leve it at that.
Incidentall, I put over 40 years of service in the military — both the Federal and my State.
Ask her what she thinks. Personally, I loved having hubby in the delivery room with me, but I would have greatly preferred he stand up at the head of the bed with me, not "helping out" the Ob team with scene reenactments of Alien.
You'll never know unless you ask.
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