I agree. And I don’t think of sex as submitting as it’s fun for me too. I really don’t get the whole submitting thing, like it’s a chore.
I wish I was wired like my husband, who wants it all the time. But I’m not. I never have that drive. It’s always a starting out cold thing and ‘warming up’, if you know what I mean. That’s where the chore mentality comes in. That’s where the ‘not wanting to’ comes in. ALL the women I’ve talked to about this are like this. They WANT to want to, but they naturally don’t.... and it’s a downer for everybody.