Girls need a different talk than boys do, definitely. They don't seem to need to be as guarded with their urges. Keeping their wits about them is a major part, because girls tend to decide rather than be driven like boys are.
As for all the fun stuff that leads to sex, it WAS fun even though it didn’t end up with intercourse in my case until marriage.
Heh, it's a different perspective as a woman. I remember reading Joshua Harris's experience with his soon-to-be wife (not that I approve of Harris's advice), and how she was completely unaware of the challenge it was for him just to be near her on a hammock in a relatively private area. Sometimes I think that the reason why women were taught to be sexually reserved was so that men wouldn't go crazy in a strict society.
I agree that girls tend to control it all. But, as a woman, the urges are really the same. And those urges were the same back when I was a teen. It certainly wasn’t easy not having sex back when I was a teen or college student.
Not familiar with Joshua Harris... I’ll have to google him.
I agree. It was like females were supposed to reign in the males or something.
As a female, it’s not that easy to control our own desires let alone another’s desire.
One of the things I do recall, is how women weren’t supposed to like sex, when that is so far from the truth. I had family members, aunts, that said sex was all about the guy but fortunately, my mother didn’t see it that way.
I wasn’t interested in sex right before each of my kids were born or right after they were born. Other than those times, sex was always great. And sex isn’t just about one person or the two, sometimes it’s about the other person.Seriously, how hard is it to just satisfy the other person?