ComputerWorld had a recent article on "Aspie's in IT". They referred to it as the "dark secret". Apparently it is pretty common. Some of the brightest, most productive people in IT are "Aspies". Many of them have no social life...and don't give a rat's ass about social standing.
They, (we, since I'm one too), usually have no social life because the social stuff "we just don't get" because it is another language which we don't see or hear, let alone understand. I've come to understand that it is genetic and built in to our brains. We try to cope, we try to work at it to make up for what comes naturally to others. But what is social recreation for others is work for us.
If there are only a hundred kids per grade and the culture is that bad, then it’s time for you and your neighbors to vote the school board out and get some folks in there who are willing to do their job.
As Z.C. wrote -- it is like that all over. And we've tried to replace the school board members but finding people to run for the board who are not either insiders or clueless is very hard, and having them win is harder. Last fall we had such a candidate -- she lost to an insider who denied the seriousness of the problems. The voters don't like messengers who bring bad news.
Our precinct, with only a few hundred voters, was able to throw out Billy McKinney (yes, THAT Billy McKinney) from a district with 4 or 5 thousand active voters. And we ran a carpetbagger from Tennesee because he was the only one who was willing to try.
What passes for "social" interaction is often banal, boring and irrelevant. The 3,000 mile gap between my house and the office where my co-workers ply their trade is a convenient means of avoiding office parties. I have a good excuse for not attending. When it's not avoidable, I can play the game. I never watch TV, so the yammering about TV shows and sporting events never strikes a chord with me. Unfortunately, that is exactly how many other people spend their time.