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My question is this: Was it the money that caused her change in behavior? Or would it have happened naturally over time.

Would he want to live with a woman like this whose behavior was just “suppressed” by a pre-nup? To me, that’s like saying, “Yeah, I can live with the monster in the basement as long as I keep it chained up and throw it a steak every other night”.

I do feel for your friend however. That’s a terrible situation that he and their children have been placed in. If this woman cannot see what she is doing to her children and a fellow human being (her husband) then I feel for whichever man enters her life in the future.

You know what the weird and scary thing is? Some guy will fall for her even after hearing this story and meeting her ex-husband!

Was it the money that caused her change in behavior? Or would it have happened naturally over time.

Money was an issue. Not lack thereof, but that she'd demonstrated a blind spot when it came to money, not shifting between accts in time to stave off $400 in NSF fees. D'ya know how many checks you have to bounce to be assessed that much? That happened several years ago, more than once, and evidently she nursed a resentment. Now it's payback time. He's sure she's not having an affair or using drugs, but nobody knows what she's blowing the money on. He had responsibility for the bills plus her grocery-and-gas money was what *I* bring home every month - and I pay all my bills (incl mortgage). Though he encouraged her to finish her doctorate & go back to work, I suppose she felt like a bird in a gilded cage. Would he want to live with a woman like this whose behavior was just “suppressed” by a pre-nup?

Nope. The passive-aggressive act is not charming. The money is merely a tool. Or a weapon. I'm worried about what else she could do to the kids. You know what the weird and scary thing is? Some guy will fall for her even after hearing this story and meeting her ex-husband!

LOL! Hubby would prolly be grateful to the guy for providing her a distraction!

Goodness, I didn't even think about that. I have so little faith in her mothering ability right now, I'd be very concerned what sort of persons she might allow around the children. I keep apologising to him on behalf of All Womanhood. Then I have to tell him, sorry, I DON'T know what the heck is going through her mind. I simply can't comprehend it.