Our amusement is not Silda Spitzer’s top priority.
Because its none of our business. He is accountable to the public, but her decisions about the marriage are private, and should be.
I guess she changed her mind.
Yes, I would love to see one of these women stand up for themselves. He’s a very lucky man. If he was my husband the only person at the lecturn would be a minister...giving his euology!
Spitzer really did have all kinds of scheduled travel for work, and his assignations seem to have been timed to coincide with trips out of town.
I don't believe the voodoo notion that "A woman call always tell."
Plenty of women get blindsided by spousal infidelity.
Her marriage of 20 years turned into a nightmare last Sunday.
After three days she was still in shock.
I feel bad for her and I can't condemn her.
I think what Spitzer did was reprehensible and he rightly deserved to loze his position.
That said, none of us has any right to pass judgement on his wife. Knowing, up close and personal, how these things affect families you cannot begin to understand why a woman stands by her man. It IS possible that she loves him and is willing to stand by HER vows.
This type of thing is not about sex. It is about the rush that one gets from “being bad.” This guy as some severe problems that need to be addressed. It is possible that he can get these issues under control.
It IS possible that he and his wife can figure out the problems between them, and make it work. I have seen it happen several times.
Judge him all you want. But it would be wrong to assume her motivations. Dont assume she is getting paid off, or that she is just being a good political wife. She doesn’t NEED him, or his money. His career is over. There is no financial or political reason for her stick around.
It is easy to say what she should do, or what you would do. However, until you have looked into the abyss, you cannot truly know what you would do.
"Show me just what Mohammed brought that was new, and there you will find things only evil and inhuman, such as his command to spread by the sword the faith he preached." - Manuel II Palelologus
I know that many women are supportive of those who stand by their man, for no other stated reason than to keep the family together. Imagine, though, the scars that the children will suffer from getting conflicting messages. Surely they are taught to be honest and to honor their family, but suddenly it is also to do as I say and not what I do.
Hopefully the girls are learning that one does not throw away a twenty-year marriage at the first sign of trouble. Hopefully they are learning that adults take time to think through and talk through their problems before taking irrevocable actions or running off to the Divorce Court. Maybe they will even see their parents seek advice and solace from professional counselors or < gasp! > religious advisors before doing something rash.
They may wind in Divorce Court eventually, but there is no need for Silda Spitzer to throw her husband and marriage away in the first 24 hours of a scandal, even if it would have made for interesting TV for Sally Quinn to watch on a slow Tuesday afternoon.
This coming from Ben Bradlee’s mistress. I’m all ears. Sarcasm off.
Of course. And I highly doubt this all started after he became Governor.
There's us "normal" people and there's the politicians, the rich, and Hollywood. They operate on a whole different set of rules -- "don't get caught" and "be discreet" being the two big ones.
Here’s one possibility:
Elliot is worth about 55 million. If she divorces him now, she gets slightly more than half, say 30 million.
When daddy passes (he’s 83 years old), the Elliot family will receive a good sized chunk of his 555 million dollar estate.
A divorce at that point would be worth a whole lot more.
I’m not saying it’s true. I hope it’s not, but it is a possibility that she must have considered.
If that is the case, she's as big a scumbag as he is.
Can you imagine a man standing next to and supporting a celebrity wife who is at the podium admitting to whoring around?
“Unless Silda knew all this was going on, of course”
That, or maybe her actions have something to do with future remunerations from the Spitzer side of the family.
As a wife who had a similar thing happen to her, I can definitely say Silda was probably in a state of shock at the time of the press conference. I'm sure his handlers were telling her what she had to do "for the good of her family".
While there was no press conference for the jerk I was married to, he expected me to continue to act as though everything was normal and not to treat the situation as a "big deal". It was a big deal. My husband of 30 years left me for the wife of one of his friends. He got up one morning and made the announcement and was gone from our lives as husband and father. I had no idea it was going on. People would say, "you had to suspect something. The fact is, I didn't.
These people who do this to their families will reap what they sow. Our kids have not spoken to their father or his family in almost 10 years.
Let's cut Silda some slack here, shall we?
Maybe she was thinking of a prenuptial that says she must stand by her man through thick and thin until the divorce papers are signed or else lose the millions she married him for.
Unless she played an organ or two in a trio.
Obviously, she’s attracted more to power than she is to fidelity. Why else would she have urged him to stay in office and fight the charges?