[Vermont Lt]

I think what Spitzer did was reprehensible and he rightly deserved to loze his position.

That said, none of us has any right to pass judgement on his wife. Knowing, up close and personal, how these things affect families you cannot begin to understand why a woman stands by her man. It IS possible that she loves him and is willing to stand by HER vows.

This type of thing is not about sex. It is about the rush that one gets from “being bad.” This guy as some severe problems that need to be addressed. It is possible that he can get these issues under control.

It IS possible that he and his wife can figure out the problems between them, and make it work. I have seen it happen several times.

Judge him all you want. But it would be wrong to assume her motivations. Dont assume she is getting paid off, or that she is just being a good political wife. She doesn’t NEED him, or his money. His career is over. There is no financial or political reason for her stick around.

It is easy to say what she should do, or what you would do. However, until you have looked into the abyss, you cannot truly know what you would do.

[Vermont Lt]

Did I really spell that “loze?” Jeez...spell check is my friend. How about “lose.”

[goldstategop]

She's upholding HER vows - in bad times as well in good. That's the promise two people make to each other when they get married. I won't presume to judge her decision to be there for her husband. We know our loved ones aren't always perfect. Whether her marriage is over is something they have to work out for themselves. I don't envy the place Slida Wall Spitzer has found herself in.

"Show me just what Mohammed brought that was new, and there you will find things only evil and inhuman, such as his command to spread by the sword the faith he preached." - Manuel II Palelologus

[Diamond]

It IS possible that he and his wife can figure out the problems between them, and make it work. I have seen it happen several times

If a wife gives her life, entire trust and sacred honor to her husband, I do not see how it could ever be the same as it was after he betrays her total trust. But that's just me.

Cordially,

[cajungirl]

agreed with every word.

What happens in this marriage, the motivation of the wife, the resolution she chooses is none of anybody’s business.

[gridlock]

It is interesting to see Sally Quinn, of all people, writing an column called "On Faith". It is no surprise that in that column she would merrily call on a woman to throw over her marriage vows at the first sign of trouble.

I will have to make a habit of reading Quinn's religion column, if only for the humor value. Kind of like the New York Times Magazine Ethics column, which is written by the most ethically blind person I have ever encountered in print. He gets it wrong, every single time.