Posted on 03/13/2008 8:55:52 AM PDT by Newsradio 740 KTRH
We've seen it before when the walls come crashing down on public figures because of extramarital affairs – women who remain committed to their relationship. Experts say there are many reasons wives don't leave.
In Old School America, an affair often meant the end of a relationship. While they romped around, politicians' infidelities usually remained behind closed doors. And yet with so much publicity, most wives in recent scandals have decided not to end the relationship. Pamela Druckerman is author of Lust in Translation: Infidelity from Tokyo to Tennessee.
"The reason why political spouses stand by their men, for the most part, is because their job is as a political spouse. That's their role in life. It behooves them, it's in their own interest, to keep their man in politics," Druckerman said.
Experts also say political spouses choose to respond in a way that suits their image in the court of public opinion.
To be fair, I don’t think she’s had TIME to “leave” yet - most jilted folks take a few days to get our stuff together, get a lawyer, etc. etc.
She hasn’t even had time to think, much less get her ducks in a row for a break-up when children are involved. Even if she plans on leaving, she may still “stand by her man” for a short time while she prepares her things...
I notice liberal wives stay with their husbands more than Conservative wives. When a Liberal has affairs and trysts, the lib wife thinks of sex as a body function, like taking a crap. They believe shame and humiliation are outmoded, racist, homophobic concepts. For Liberals, temporal, earthly political power is more important than human relationships, fidelity, and basic decency. Thus, they don't see the fuss when their husbands cheat on them.
When Conservatives have affairs, the wife kicks the husband in the a$$ and either gives him the boot, puts his testicles in a lockbox, and/or forces him into counseling in order to get his family life back.
Hence, that's why Lefties always shout, "HYPOCRISY" (sounds like hypocwisy) when their politicians' wives stay with them, while Conservatives get divorces.
Silda is an accomplished woman in her own right. A divorce settlement will be so large that she would not ever have to work again.
To me, as a man, for the life of me,I cannot understand this type of female behavior. All I can think is what a doormat. Flip him off and leave the stage. That would be normal behavior. I guess there is no normal for politicos.
When this Spitzer mess unfolded, I asked Mrs. Sniper if she would have stood by me in a public forum if I’d been such a perfect horse’s ass. She smiled every so sweetly and said, “No, I’d be standing over your twitching lifeless body and reloading.” ...thus reaffirming that I made the right choice in a life partner.
Mrs. Spitzer is no better (a parent or) a person than Lizard-man Spitzer.
By her actions, she cares NOTHING for her daughters or for their honor and direction. In fact, by making the overt statement of going out there, TWICE, (rather than even staying privately neutral for now,) to stand by Mr. Sleaze, she is pro-ACTIVEly slapping her daughters.
This woman..."mother"...could feed and water her daughters on her own--starting yesterday--for the rest of their upbringings. But instead, "mommy" has chosen to whack them upside the head before blindly waving to them over her shoulder as she runs to catch the Dirth Money Express.
We now have a glimpse as to personality types of the initial, mutual attraction of BOTH Mr. and Mrs. Spitzer, years ago.
Insufferable Cad and cadette.
Yes, I do know something about it. I know what it’s like to be afraid of the person on the other end of a relationship - and I know that if I had not thought everything out clearly, my ex-husband would have succeeded in his efforts to take our daughter away from me. Even though he was the one who broke our marriage vows, he was unrepentant, respected in the community, and it was my word against his. My only hope of getting away from him without damage was to make him think I wasn’t a threat to him.
I was very, very careful, and yes, people ask me “why didn’t you leave right away if it was so bad?” It’s because I cared about my little girl. I was careful, I made sure I had everything ready to go, and then I got my daughter to a safe place. But strangely, I still felt like it was a matter of honor, and my duty, to tell him I was leaving. I just couldn’t “leave a note” and go. I had to tell him face to face, because I felt like it would be cowardly to break the sacred bond of marriage, running in the dark. It was scary, but I did it, and I got out without harm. My daughter now understands why I took my time - there was something more important than my emotional needs at stake at that time, and I would never allow my daughter to be traumatized because I needed the satisfaction of “revenge”.
In the end, I traded my worldly goods for the right to have our daughter live with me. I thank God my daughter’s needs came first - my needs were met later, through the Grace of God.
The same feeling MAY apply here: Eliot Spitzer is a corrupt lawyer, possibly with ties to organized crime. Silda knows that he will fight her with everything he has, legal or otherwise. Remember, he called himself a “****ing steamroller” - and he’ll roll right over her and the girls if she doesn’t protect herself.
Let’s face facts - if she even touches him physically, he’ll call it assault. If she just up and leaves, that’s physical abandonment of property or children, and she could potentially face loss of both.
Even if she’s a lawyer with plenty of money, she doesn’t have the power structure he has, or the “friends in high places”. It is better for her to take a few days to craft a stealthy, protected exit, surrounded by the proper court documents and protective orders, than to go off mad and find herself locked out of shared assets or children. She might even be visited by some of his criminal acquantainces unless she is careful. It’s far smarter - if less satisfying - to find a way to force him out of her life legally than for her to go off “half-cocked”...
But it might be far more satisfying for the *rest* of us to see Spitzer sent off “half-cocked”.
Sorry about your situation. But am glad you got out and it seems like you were smart about it.
Sounds like my wiife.
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