Posted on 03/12/2008 4:55:51 AM PDT by ciocia
Dr. Laura Schlessinger has never been one to shrink from controversy, and she leaped headlong into one on Monday when she said that if a husband cheats, his wife may share some of the blame.
“When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs,” the popular psychologist and radio personality said.
More commonly known as just “Dr. Laura,” Schlessinger made the remarks while participating in one of several panel discussions on TODAY dealing with the breaking news that New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer had been connected to a high-priced prostitution ring.
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Well that settles it. Now all I have to do is explain it to my wife.
It’s all Hillary’s fault.
Wow, Dr Laura isn’t doing any favors to womanhood with that statement. It seems to me that a man will cheat even if he has the most rewarding marriage (sexually, emotionally, etc).
Not really. Most of my married friends essentially got sex cut off within 1-2 years of getting married.
When the options are celibacy, cheating, or divorce, many choose to have affairs.
Jake Blues: No I didn’t. Honest... I ran out of gas. I, I had a flat tire. I didn’t have enough money for cab fare. My tux didn’t come back from the cleaners. An old friend came in from out of town. Someone stole my car. There was an earthquake. A terrible flood. Locusts. IT WASN’T MY FAULT, I SWEAR TO GOD.
Obviously, Silda has let herself go. Can you blame him for straying repeatedly on that semblance of a woman? And she should have acquiesed to his "unsafe" and kinky preferences, in order to keep him happy and satisfied. Because that's what marriage is all about, isn't it?
Do I really need a sarcasm tag?
Dr. Self Righteous Indignation speaks!
Utterly amazing that this woman has risen to the level that she has......
My Wife told me not to expect her to join me in front of reporters during my *apology*.
She said I wouldn’t likely be there either.
That might be true for a mistress, but at $4000 a pop, it ain't her "charm" he's after.
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Not really. Most of my married friends essentially got sex cut off within 1-2 years of getting married.
When the options are celibacy, cheating, or divorce, many choose to have affairs.
LOL. An even bigger crock.
There may be cases in which the mechanism ‘Dr. Laura’ proposes is at work, but I think in general men who cheat on their wives are just lizards. (It’s called the ‘Fall of Man’: humanity having made ourselves more like the brute beasts, subject to irrational passions, rather than ruling over them, through disobedience to God’s command.)
I'd have to agree with the Dr., but it of course applies to both sexes equally.
A spouse that emotionally or sexually spurns the other has provided an impetus for that person to go somewhere else.
I've seen men that treat their wives like garbage and nasty emasculating women that belittle their husbands with every action. I think it is obvious that those types of spouses bare a great deal of responsibility if their spouse looks elsewhere.
That does not justify cheating (there are more honest ways to confront the problem), but its a contributing factor. Often a large one.
This principle applies to many things. Its wrong to be slothful at work, but a demeaning dishonest boss can bear a lot of the blame for the employees taking every opportunity to stop working.
They are each 100% to blame for any coming accident.
If a man cheats on his wife he is to blame 100%. If a women withholds sex from her husband, she may not be 100% to blame. But she has blame. Her blame does not diminish his. Its her blame.
I can’t wait to show this to my wife.
Some wives also grant or deny sex as a system of reward and punishment, obviating other dynamics in the marriage.
The principle at work, whether or not explicitly understood or acknowledged is: “If I can give pleasure, I can withhold pleasure”.
Base manipulation.
Cheating on the marriage vows is immoral, but then cheating on those vows sometimes happens in very subtle ways, creating a “victim”.
And no, I do not hold a LCSW certification, nor have played one on TV.
Its a matter of percentages. There a scummy spouses that will cheat no matter what. Then there are decent spouses that give in to temptation that they otherwise wouldn't have, if their spouse were a decent person to them.
“Dr. Laura: Women Share the Blame for Cheating Men.”
Sounds good to me. My wife seems to have a different opinion though.
The headline is “...Women Share the Blame...”
The story quote is “wife may share some of the blame”
Operative word being “may”
A big difference.
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