Posted on 03/11/2008 5:30:41 PM PDT by Cecily
Dr. Laura Schlessinger has never been one to shrink from controversy, and she leaped headlong into one on Monday when she said that if a husband cheats, his wife may share some of the blame.
“When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs,” the popular psychologist and radio personality said.
More commonly known as just “Dr. Laura,” Schlessinger made the remarks while participating in one of several panel discussions on TODAY dealing with the breaking news that New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer had been connected to a high-priced prostitution ring.
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Oh we know that. Have a few in our circle of friends. But that's for another forum.....
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[she really does play up to the men when they call in though ]
Ahaa, so maybe she really does know how to treat men, lol.
They want all the pampering.
Let's face it men have gotten the short end of the stick these past several decades and sometimes women just have to hear how wrong they are in the most basic manner...they're just not used to hearing that their feelings just aren't as important as they think they are.
Whew!
Yeah, I know lots of them too (in another forum)....
that’s why these threads here just crack me up.
I call it sucking up....
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I’ve read some of the posts
I won’t comment on any of them
I think it is a woman’s duty, although I don’t like that word. And yes, I think a woman should do it even if she’s not in the mood...But with that duty comes wonderful rewards...and as duties go, it’s a pretty nice one! BTW, are you married?
As a married lady, I agree. There have been times, maybe TMI here, where I had to tell my husband not to worry about it (right after the birth of a child, breastfeeding all night long, etc.) where I just wasn’t up for it but didn’t mean he couldn’t be. He told me once that he wanted me to enjoy it too and I did but it didn’t mean I had to be into it for me. I gave birth by c section to 4 babies and breasfed all of them so there were times I wasn’t that into it but it didn’t mean he had to suffer because of it. And he more than made up for it after those times.
I don’t read minds either, and actually, don’t care to, just tell me. Most of the time, no words ever need to be spoken in bed. And outside of bed, just tell me.
I really think far too many people make it more complicated than it is.
Widowed,
and I’ll never marry again......
“Erm,
OK,
let me explain myself——
it takes is more than 5 minutes to become aroused enough to have an orgasm. I don’t get what you mean by ‘overrated’——”
Maybe you do...many, many ladies do not.
What do I mean by overrated?
Let’s see.... Dont get me wrong...romance is very much the order of the day here...but there are limits.
Many women, esp older ones, use foreplay as another means of control... they like to get the guy all panting and hot and bothered because they love the control.
Kinda like the people who put the goodie on the dog’s nose and then wont give the command to eat it... they like watching the dog drool and fidget.
As long as the clock is running on two people having a great time together doing what each other likes then all is well.
Tormenting someone for fun is not.
Possibly, and possibly she is a flirt.
Lol, do I detect a bit of anti-men in you?
Who in the hell have you been dating!?!?
“As a married lady, I agree. There have been times, maybe TMI here, where I had to tell my husband not to worry about it (right after the birth of a child, breastfeeding all night long, etc.) where I just wasn’t up for it but didn’t mean he couldn’t be. He told me once that he wanted me to enjoy it too and I did but it didn’t mean I had to be into it for me. I gave birth by c section to 4 babies and breasfed all of them so there were times I wasn’t that into it but it didn’t mean he had to suffer because of it. And he more than made up for it after those times.”
Sounds like you have a great understanding and a great spouse!
And sure if there are medical or temporary emotional situations then that is totally understandable.
“I don’t read minds either, and actually, don’t care to, just tell me. Most of the time, no words ever need to be spoken in bed. And outside of bed, just tell me.
I really think far too many people make it more complicated than it is.”
Hear! Hear!
I bet you have a great life and lots of happiness!
And you and your spouse deserve it!
Congrats!
More like “married to an abusive, near deadly sociopath” women who later found love outside of marriage.
Mostly, I quit accepting crumbs and expecting the whole cake....ya know what? Ya get it....
[I won’t comment on any of them]
I can understand that! No guns, no knives, no politics, no “nekid dancing girls”, snicker!!
[and that’s not a typo, lol]
“Who in the hell have you been dating!?!?”
Some very dear women who know what they want, how they want it, and can communicate it.
God love each and every one of them!
With your attitude about men, that’s a good decision.
I’ve read the 1st 70 Posts, BUMP For Later.
Now that was uncalled for,
see post 291.... I have my reasons...
Nothing like a living death to make you really cherish your freedom....and yes, I love men (for sex and breakfast).
If what Dr. Laura said makes no sense to you, and you are married, count your blessings.
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