As a married lady, I agree. There have been times, maybe TMI here, where I had to tell my husband not to worry about it (right after the birth of a child, breastfeeding all night long, etc.) where I just wasn’t up for it but didn’t mean he couldn’t be. He told me once that he wanted me to enjoy it too and I did but it didn’t mean I had to be into it for me. I gave birth by c section to 4 babies and breasfed all of them so there were times I wasn’t that into it but it didn’t mean he had to suffer because of it. And he more than made up for it after those times.
I don’t read minds either, and actually, don’t care to, just tell me. Most of the time, no words ever need to be spoken in bed. And outside of bed, just tell me.
I really think far too many people make it more complicated than it is.
“As a married lady, I agree. There have been times, maybe TMI here, where I had to tell my husband not to worry about it (right after the birth of a child, breastfeeding all night long, etc.) where I just wasn’t up for it but didn’t mean he couldn’t be. He told me once that he wanted me to enjoy it too and I did but it didn’t mean I had to be into it for me. I gave birth by c section to 4 babies and breasfed all of them so there were times I wasn’t that into it but it didn’t mean he had to suffer because of it. And he more than made up for it after those times.”
Sounds like you have a great understanding and a great spouse!
And sure if there are medical or temporary emotional situations then that is totally understandable.
“I don’t read minds either, and actually, don’t care to, just tell me. Most of the time, no words ever need to be spoken in bed. And outside of bed, just tell me.
I really think far too many people make it more complicated than it is.”
Hear! Hear!
I bet you have a great life and lots of happiness!
And you and your spouse deserve it!
Congrats!