Posted on 03/11/2008 5:30:41 PM PDT by Cecily
Dr. Laura Schlessinger has never been one to shrink from controversy, and she leaped headlong into one on Monday when she said that if a husband cheats, his wife may share some of the blame.
“When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs,” the popular psychologist and radio personality said.
More commonly known as just “Dr. Laura,” Schlessinger made the remarks while participating in one of several panel discussions on TODAY dealing with the breaking news that New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer had been connected to a high-priced prostitution ring.
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“shouldn’t he actually BE A HERO before a wife treats him like one?”
You really are clueless.
Women expect men to romance them and support them and tell them how beautiful they are and all that, but you think that men are not allowed to have any needs?
Sounds like you’ve been listening to Oprah for too long.
Sorry,
I was watching the Mummy having very naughty thoughts about Brendan Fraser.
HE would get sex every night.
Adultery is a sin. It’s not allowed. It’s a violation of wedding vows.
Do you have any chapter and verse stating that a husband or wife withholding sex from the other is a sin?
Notice verse 6 from I Corinthians, Chapter 7:
“3Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
4The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
6But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.”
That can be true, and you know what??
When the man does not focus in on the needs and the feelings, sexually, personally, to make his wife feel like he loves her, to make her feel like a success, to make her feel like his hero, she's very susceptible to the charm of some other man making her feel what she needs !!
Get a new hairstylist!
I wouldn’t go so far as to say that cheating isn’t a pathology... MANY people who cheat are “repeat offenders”. It’s often not a one-time thing.
I’m not understanding what you mean by coming up with the logic of “I’m going to start beating her”. If you talk to an abuser they will say some of the same things — she pissed me off, she didn’t clean the floor, she didn’t have dinner on the table for me, I wanted sex, and she didn’t want to give it to me. That is THEIR reasoning for why beating their wives is alright — that they were pushed to doing it.
Some (most?) cheaters are the same way — it’s not MY fault — she drove me to cheat, she got fat, she cut her hair, she didn’t have dinner on the table when I came home, she didn’t want to have sex because she was too tired (from staying up with a newborn ALL NIGHT for nights in a row), etc... etc...
It’s human nature for people to avoid taking responsibility for their actions and how they affect other people. It’s something that needs to be taught to children - to recognize that no matter what, they alone are responsible for how they choose to respond to a situation, even if they are not the ones responsible for being in the situation in the first place.
It’s no different in any type of abuse situation (whether physical, or emotionally as in the case of a cheating spouse). No matter what situation one my find themselves in how they respond to it is definitely THEIR responsibility and theirs alone. There are no excuses for cheating OR beating.
But but but,
what you're implying is that WOMEN can be dissatisfied with their sex lives too! Emotionally as well as physically.
And oh, Dr. L....it takes longer than 5 minutes deary pie...quit giving the guys permission to be lazy. (The woman wouldn't know an O if it bit her on the butt)
Nothing wrong with that, where's the beef (controversy)?
Well, I tried!
Shot Guns are so romantic!
My, my....
what happened to personal responsibility? Or is it a case of “she made me do it!”
(aren’t we at war with people who think that way??)
That’s a good point - people who make excuses for cheaters will soon move on to making excuses for beaters.
SNICKER!!
SNICKER!!
And, if this posts twice it’s because I got a PROXY error!!
It's time to stop blaming the wife and start making the perpetrator (or penetrator) take responsibility for his actions. For politicians, that would mean having to stand at the podium ALONE and take the hit. He should be wearing the red "A" on his label. Instead, by having his wife stand there like a cardboard prop, she's wearing an invisible sign that says, "My husband would rather have a hooker than me."
The element missing from this scenario, which is sad but NOT tragic, is SHAME. He's going to try and save his job or bargain it for no jail time. He can condemn others but he rises above it all. She bears the shame of the jilted, rejected "lesser" woman.
And Dr. Laura thinks it's Mrs. Spitzer's fault?
“...that is unless that person is a woman can’t think logically beyond her own feelings and FEELS that men are evil subjugaters of women.”
Wow... have you ever looked up the word hypocrite?
After reading this post and the one before it, it sounds like you blame ALL women for EVERYTHING! Saying we are “all the same”, etc... etc...
It’s no wonder that this is what YOUR experience has been seeing as your attitude towards women is as it is.
A GOOD woman wouldn’t even want to come NEAR a man who spoke like you — and then what you’re left with is the ones that behave just like you — like a child. Is it any wonder you know no different? Perhaps you should look in the mirror FIRST.
“I get the slobby part but short haired??? as if many many many women with short hair aren’t sexy as hell!”
The vast majority of short haired women look dykish and decidedly un womanly.
They look like they waddled into the super cuts put a bowl over their heads and chopped it all off.... No style no sculpting...
Looks terrible.
There are a few short haired women like a very womanly swimmer and gymnast I dated that look good w short hair, but most do not.
Ladies take note...long hair is a very feminine and womanly asset and is worth the effort.
I think not!
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