IIRC from one of your earlier posts, the girls in question are pre-teens, but that can be stressful anyway and will only get worse when they’re teenagers. Whose side does Dad take? Maybe you need more support from him.
If he’s not available, I think you need more support from somebody, somewhere. One of the problems with modern parenting is that the society as a whole is not supportive of decent standards and good behavior.
So perhaps if you could find some kind of parents’ group, say in your church, or even consider sending the girls to a private or parochial school where they will get a bit more encouragement to respect you, it might help. I know it will cost money, but if there’s any way you can do it, it might help.
Yes, it’s the same two girls.
I have come to realize through my aunt that this is the typical mother-daughter rebellion. Their Dad is firmer than me, but doesn’t understand the subtle smartaleck stuff they do and say. I, however, remember quite well how I acted and know their game. Maybe that’s it. I gave my mother such a hard time, that age old ‘I hope you have two just like you’ came true, ha!
Seriously, I was watching an episode of Roseanne the other night and recognized the SAME type stuff and remembered watching that show and recalling my own 12 year old stuff. Wow, it really does happen and I can get through this. I have done one practice that is REALLY helping. Repeat. Anytime one of them say something ugly or smartalecky as they are want to do, to me or each other or someone else, I make them repeat it. It was taking two or three times, but now it’s once and even becoming a habit to say it ‘right’ the first time. I hope this works.