Also with my medical issues, kids are not right for us. I had my spine fused in 2006. A pregnancy would create a lot of stress on my spine and make for a difficult pregnancy. I need to work, so missing work for pregnancy and delivery is NOT an option or we would be homeless.
My anxiety issues around kids is also a concern. I do not take medication and I do not want to, I avoid situation where there are a lot of children and I am OK.
There was a time when I wished I had lots of kids, but that was when I lived next to a sneaker factory in Indonesia and was short on cash.
I understand limitations and losses (very personally) and everybody lives within their own. Sounds like avoiding procreation is a wise choice on your part. Best wishes to you and your husband.