If your fantasy Mr. Right is interfering with your chances of settling down with the guy who isn’t quite rich enough or handsome enough or sensitive enough, it’s a problem. If your “Mr. Right Template” is set up so you don’t settle for Mr. Wrong, then it’s a good thing.
Some of my friends used to tease me because my list of requirements was so stringent I wasn’t interested in people who met one or two, but not all, of them. They told me I’d never find the guy I was looking for. Ha!
I guess my philosophy is “settle down, don’t settle for”.
Very well said!
“Some of my friends used to tease me because my list of requirements was so stringent I wasn’t interested in people who met one or two, but not all, of them. They told me I’d never find the guy I was looking for.”
I get tired of that outlook - it’s rampant here on FR, too (can’t you tell?).
We are told to NOT set too high expectations. So what then, we get a bum? How stupid! But I think you got it right:
‘If your “Mr. Right Template” is set up so you don’t settle for Mr. Wrong, then it’s a good thing.’
You’re danged right I included musts and desparate wants: Christian, conservative, not ugly (I’ve only run into this once), likes history of some sort, smart/knowledgeable (they are different things), doesn’t mind dogs, honest, decent family relations, and at least respects my wish to remain genuinely celibate before marriage. I could add but don’t remember all right now!
This last of course, was the real kicker.