The #1 thing I look for in a woman is balance. After that it’s wisdom - the ability to think and judge.
What I find to be the problem with most women is they don’t understand balance. There are too many ‘mode’ women out there - women that conform themselves to a certain image. Most women I run into are either skank or absolute obsessive compulsive anal princess, especially with the kids. Or some other kneejerk, inflexible caricature they’re trying to be.
I want a woman that can go to church and have a beer from time to time. Someone who’s a good mom, but knows when to drop the kids at grandmas so we have a night on the town. Someone who’s independent enough to make decisions, but considerate enough to keep me in the loop on the important things BEFORE she goes off and does them. Someone who knows what’s important in a man and relationship and what’s not.
Most women I meet simply are not balanced. They live in their little world, their little way of doing things, their little social subculture, their little experiences. They have no ability to get beyond themselves and their little lives and actually get along with someone who’s not exactly like them.
Which is why they never find a man - because no one is exactly like them. They want an object, not a person, and they stopped growing so long ago and are so set in their ways they simply don’t have the interpersonal skills anymore to relate to someone.