Being a hospice nurse myself, I can without reservations tell you your family has made the best possible choice.
We neither speed it up or slow it down, just keep them comfortable and facilitate a comfortable death, whenever it occurs.
And what you’re feeling is common. At this point there’s really no “normal”. Look at it as one of the few times in life you get a free pass.
And FWIW kidney failure is one of the best possible ways to go. If I had a choice from a menu, I’d pick that one over all the others. And stopping dialysis virtually guarantees no lingering around either!
Is she in a hospice facility or still at the nursing home? If she’s in the nursing home does the hospice offer “continuous care”?
(PM me, I know this is a private matter.)
She ent there tonight, thanks for the support.