[dan1123]

IF she was having mindblowing sex with all her 23 lovers, Id agree.

Mind-blowing sex with zero anticipation? I think she sabotaged her enjoyment of sex from the beginning.

Its really she doesn’t get that ‘good sex’ is something that you do, not something that happens.

Yes, and her treating it as something special might be a good place to start.

Granted, other factors can make that ‘doing’ less likely

Yes, men get the blame for not approaching their wives emotionally, but it also wouldn't hurt for them to be in better physical shape to enjoy a romp. Getting to the gym is healthy for more than just putting off a heart attack.

[najida]

Erm,
Again, it’s a two way street....A man can say ‘she’s a fat pig’ and wifey can say ‘he’s a two second rocket with a 3 inch fuse’. I actually know of a case like this...where both partners had physical, erm, issues.

You have to both care about each other enough to fix what’s wrong. And yes, sex should be special, but it also should be approached with a ‘I won’t settle for blah’ attitude, which sometimes puts it into the more pragmatic ‘find what crisps your bacon’ category.

As for anticipation= mindblowing sex....erm, not always for a woman.