My husband says the same thing, basically, neither has a right to complain - just be a grownup and be responsible for whether the toilet seat is how YOU like it before using it.
Both men and women should close the toilet lid before flushing. If you flush with the lid up, a polluted plume of bacteria and water vapour erupts out of the flushing toilet bowl. The polluted water particles float for a few hours around your bathroom before they all land. Some of them will land on your towels and tooth brush.
Google “toilet flush bacteria.”