[colorado tanker]

A few years ago I met a woman who was doing this not for pay but because she enjoyed motherhood and was a friend of the couple.

A healthy girl was born. Of course, it didn't take long for the couple to divorce. The "mom" was an uninvolved mother who had an affair with her personal trainer. I think the kid was just another possession she wanted, out of many. Fortunately, she did have a father who loved her.

[Mrs. Don-o]

One powerful effect of conceiving a child in a physical intimate union with your spouse, and carrying the child for 9 months in your womb, and nursing the child at the breast, is that it utilizes and maximizes the personal resources of the whole female body-mind-soul in creating mother-child attachment.

And you know what? Children and mothers both benefit profoundly from this attachment. It tends to keep wives with husbands (because of the mutual interdependence that's fostered during the wife's pregnancy and nursing months) and mothers with children.

The physical experiences and instincts aroused by loving intercourse, carrying, giving birth, and nursing are directly tied into the attainment of optimal attachment and bonding.

There was a time when everybody knew this. Now people act like it's a new and controversial perspective.