[Mrs. Don-o]

One powerful effect of conceiving a child in a physical intimate union with your spouse, and carrying the child for 9 months in your womb, and nursing the child at the breast, is that it utilizes and maximizes the personal resources of the whole female body-mind-soul in creating mother-child attachment.

And you know what? Children and mothers both benefit profoundly from this attachment. It tends to keep wives with husbands (because of the mutual interdependence that's fostered during the wife's pregnancy and nursing months) and mothers with children.

The physical experiences and instincts aroused by loving intercourse, carrying, giving birth, and nursing are directly tied into the attainment of optimal attachment and bonding.

There was a time when everybody knew this. Now people act like it's a new and controversial perspective.

[colorado tanker]

In the case I was referring to, the wife could not carry a pregnancy but was fertile, she had eggs that could be harvested.

Of course, as an adoptive parent I don't really understand why people would get tangled up in this rather than adopt.

Oh, maybe I do. When you work through infertility treatment, there always seems to be one more drug or procedure to try that just might work after the preceding failures. It gets to be very seductive, if not addictive.