[Antoninus]

For my kids, their first word is often "no". And they learn from an early age that throwing a tantrum is the best way to get mommy and daddy to take your toys away for the whole day and stick you in the "penalty box".

Needless to say, we don't have a tantrum problem...

[ichabod1]

It’s interesting isn’t it. I’m all for positive parenting. I think it’s a good idea. It’s good to give children options. It’s good to understand their frustrations and hear them when they talk. But like so many other nice ideas it doesn’t lead to a good result, does it.

They NEED to hear the word NO. But it’s a word they can’t repeat back to us. That causes confusion. It’s a nuance. But it’s a nuance they need to ‘get.’