Assuming both parents are sane and of sound mind (and not under the influence of drugs,) I agree.
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Oh, I most definitely agree with your assessment. My scenario assumes that we are talking about two people who do not present an actual danger to the children through addiction or psycho behavior. It would be horribly wrong to keep a child in a marriage where one of the spouses could cause physical harm to the child.
Even though I do not present any stats to back it up, I am confident in assuming that the majority of divorces in the US are not based on such dangers but on one or the other of the parties just not “feelin’ the love” any more— a direct consequence of the “me first” attitude among so many.
The scenario you mention (non psychotic, not feeling the love) is exactly why my parents divorced.
However it shook out, here I am. However, considering my parents hadn’t spoken a kind word to each other in the last 2 years of their marriage, I don’t know, as a kid, if I’d have rather continued that arrangement or not.
I got much closer to both parents after the divorce since I was a teenager and had more good talks with both of them as they weren’t preoccupied in dealing with the antics of the other.