She didn't say any of those things.
What she was saying is that a women who enters the military isn't aware of what it is going to cost her, her femininity and modesty.
Men become more masculine because the military is a man's calling, not a woman's one.
Their are legitimate areas for women in the military, such as nursing and administration, but to insist that they turn into men is nothing but Feminism.
Claiming the military is only a man's calling denegrates the service of tens of thousands of women. Saying that the military somehow turns them into men is insulting. If she regrets her service or won't allow her children to serve then fine. She should at least be grateful that there are others out there willing to serve when she and her's won't.