Claiming the military is only a man's calling denegrates the service of tens of thousands of women. Saying that the military somehow turns them into men is insulting. If she regrets her service or won't allow her children to serve then fine. She should at least be grateful that there are others out there willing to serve when she and her's won't.
Well, you had better study what the results of women in what traditionally have been considered male combat roles has been.
Women are far more traumatized then are men.
Most women in the military do not want to be in combat roles, but are being forced into them.
On the negative side, researchers confirmed that woman are more prone to injuries; medical lost time (including maternity leave) detracts from unit strength and readiness. Gender-norming reduces female injuries, but heightens resentment of double standards and degrades morale. http://cmrlink.org/WomenInCombat.asp?docID=263
Now, no one is casting aspersions on any woman who has served honorably.
We are looking at the philosophy behind the view that men and women are to be treated the same when they are not and never will be.
And war is too serious to be playing social experiments with.
As probably one of the smartest guys on FR, you know that is true.