Skip to comments.Love Isn't Enough: 5 Reasons Why Same-Sex Marriage Will Harm Children
Posted on 10/15/2007 4:17:54 PM PDT by wagglebee
OPINION, Oct. 15 /Christian Newswire/ -- The following comments are submitted by Trayce Hansen, Ph.D.:
Proponents of same-sex marriage believe the only thing children really need is love. Based on that supposition, they conclude it's just as good for children to be raised by loving parents of the same sex, as it is to be raised by loving parents of the opposite sex. Unfortunately, that basic assumption--and all that flows from it--isn't true. Because love isn't enough!
All else being equal, children do best in a home headed by a married mother and father. It's within this environment that children are most likely to be exposed to the emotional and psychological experiences they need in order to thrive.
Men and women bring diversity to parenting; each makes unique contributions that can't be replicated by the other. Mothers and fathers simply aren't interchangeable. Two women can both be good mothers, but neither can be a good father.
Here are five reasons why it's in the best interest of children to be raised by both a mother and a father:
First, mother-love and father-love--though equally important--are qualitatively different and produce distinct parent-child attachments. Specifically, it's the combination of the unconditional-leaning love of a mother and the conditional-leaning love of a father that's essential to a child's development. Either of these forms of love without the other can be problematic. What a child needs is the complementary balance the two types of parental love and attachment provide.
Secondly, children progress through predictable developmental stages. Some stages require more from a mother, while others require more from a father. For example, during infancy, babies of both sexes tend to do better in the care of their mother. Mothers are more attuned to the subtle needs of their infants and thus are more appropriately responsive. Fathers are generally needed later when they play a restraining role in the lives of their children. They restrain sons from acting out antisocially and daughters from acting out sexually. When there's no father to perform this function, a boy is more likely to become delinquent and incarcerated and a girl is more likely to become promiscuous and pregnant.
Third, boys and girls need an opposite-sexed parent to help them moderate their own gender-linked inclinations. As example, boys generally embrace reason over emotion, rules over relationships, risk-taking over caution, and standards over compassion, while girls generally embrace the reverse. An opposite-sexed parent helps a child keep his or her own natural proclivities in check by teaching--verbally and nonverbally--the worth of the opposing tendencies.
Fourth, same-sex marriage will increase sexual confusion and sexual experimentation by implying all choices are equally acceptable and desirable. So, even children from traditional homes--influenced by the all-sexual-options-are-equal message--will grow up thinking it doesnt matter whom one relates to sexually or marries. Holding such a belief will lead some--if not many--impressionable young people to consider sexual and marital arrangements they never would have contemplated previously. And children from homosexual families, who are already more likely to experiment sexually, would do so to a greater extent, because not only was non-traditional sexuality role-modeled by their parents, it was also approved by their society.
Human sexuality is pliant. Consider ancient Greece or Rome--among other early civilizations--where male homosexuality and bisexuality were nearly ubiquitous. This was not so because most of those men were born with a "gay gene," rather it was because homosexuality was condoned by those societies. That which a society sanctions, it gets more of.
And fifth, if society permits same-sex marriage, it also will have to allow other types of marriage. If prohibiting same-sex marriage is discriminatory, then disallowing polygamous marriage, polyamorous marriage, or any marital grouping will also be deemed discriminatory. The emotional and psychological ramifications of these assorted arrangements on children would be disastrous. And what happens to the children of these alternative marriages if the union dissolves and each parent then "remarries"? Those children could end up with four fathers, or two fathers and four mothers, or, you fill in the blank.
Certainly homosexual couples can be just as loving as heterosexual couples, but children require more than love. They need the distinctive qualities and the complementary natures of a male and female parent.
The accumulated wisdom of over 2,000 years has concluded that the ideal marital and parental configuration is composed of one man and one woman. Arrogantly disregarding such time-tested wisdom, and using children as guinea pigs in a radical experiment, is risky at best, and cataclysmic at worst.
Same-sex marriage definitely isn't in the best interest of children. And although we empathize with those homosexuals who long to be married and parent children, we must not allow our compassion for them to trump our compassion for children. In a contest between the desires of some homosexuals and the needs of all children, we can't allow the children to lose.
However, the left is far more concerned about advancing their agenda.
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How about the number 1 reason: It ain’t right.
Exactly; this has nothing to do with what is best for the child or society.
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Men and women bring diversity to parenting; each makes unique contributions that can’t be replicated by the other. Mothers and fathers simply aren’t interchangeable. Two women can both be good mothers, but neither can be a good father.
gotta wonder just how many of those 56% male students molested by faggot teachers (your other post) were in a home with both parents as opposed to a single mother......
gee I didn’t a same sex marriage could produce children...
Your post is enigmatic to me. Please explain your point.
first, here is the other post referred to
Now as to what I posted above......I’m wondering if boys raised without a Father/Dad are more susceptible to the advances of fags than boys raised with proper natural and complete parentage
what do YOU think?
The same points are equally valid as applied to single parent homes. With 50% of births in the general population now occurring with single mothers that is a much bigger problem than the number of gay parents out there.
From the post, it seems that homosexuals are more apt to prey on children the heterosexuals.
That fact has always been obvious to me.
I am still at a loss as to what point you were making.
I agree with most of the writer's reasoning, but, the "conditional-leaning love of a father" is problematic. I have 2 children. One girl now age 30, one boy now age 28. If not for "unconditional love", my son would be buried in the back yard!
“I am still at a loss...”
I’m not sure why, as I stated it a second time for you in even plainer english:
[Im wondering if boys raised without a Father/Dad are more susceptible to the advances of fags than boys raised with proper natural and complete parentage]
Now.....pretend for a moment that you are a combo faggot/pedophile.....being a teacher (remember the other post) is one occupation where you are constantly interacting with boys......and you are also in a position to know if they have only a Mother to tend their developing persona. And on top of all that, “sex education” and other amoral liberal subjects taught in schools today are in your favor in terms of advances upon boys, and you know perfectly well that those without a proper and natural masculine role-model are easier marks for your perversion.......
Maybe you could look into homo/pedo logic, method, and behavior when they are on the prowl for boys to augment what has always “been obvious” to you.
“The same points are equally valid as applied to single parent homes. With 50% of births in the general population now occurring with single mothers that is a much bigger problem than the number of gay parents out there.”
The same people who promoted sex outside of marriage and easy access to divorce and abortion are now pushing same sex marriage. I can remember the arguments: if people live together outside of marriage, then marriages will be stronger. All we need is love. Divorce will be good for children because they won’t have to hear their parents fight. Women die because they don’t have legal access to abortion. This last point may be true, but the number of abortions have obviously increased because access to abortion services is readily available.
These experiments have had very negative impacts on individuals and society and I anticipate more of the same from same sex marriage and parenting.
Who would believe that we’d have to DEFEND the OBVIOUS?
HOMOSEXULAITY IS WRONG and thus NO EXAMPLE for an innocent mind to follow as an example. I have NO DOUBT that MOLESTATIONS that many SAME SEX “couples” MOLEST their SAME SEX fostercare kids and adopt them for the VERY reason they are the SAME SEX as the “couple”.
It appears to be the old well, bad things happened to kids of heterosexual parents and that’s the ideal so give kids a chance with PERVERTS. It’s a totally SICK defense and argument to defend PERVERSION.
Ah another candidate to be molested behind closed doors and INFLUENCE to become a lesbian - how nice!
This little girl would fare far better with decent heterosexual parents. It’s a crime in and of itself to subject this little girl to such PERVERSION.
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