Those same incidences can be seen in most people. If you never hurt anyone, no one thinks much about though. Why do most people live normal lives but occasionally one will cross the line?
‘Those same incidences can be seen in most people. If you never hurt anyone, no one thinks much about though. Why do most people live normal lives but occasionally one will cross the line?’
There is always a clear pattern of escalation in these instances. Some might recall the initial reports about both of the Columbine killers were ‘they were such nice boys’....or ‘they never seemed to bother anybody’.
Of course later we learned that simply wasn’t the case at all.
Check the descriptions of Jeffrey Dahlmer, his neighbors said he was ‘quiet, never bothered anybody’.
This stuff never changes, including how the media and locals initially react. Its only upon closer examination we find that the ‘quiet young man’ did have a problem with small animals (Dahlmer) or had problems with other kids and made death threats (Columbine punks).
This happens over and over and over again...yet somebody will always say ‘they just snapped’. Its the single biggest ‘urban myth’ in US history from what I can tell.
There are always ‘precursors’. Always.
btw, a great book that covers this topic is called ‘The Gift of Fear’ by Gavin De Becker. I highly recommend it for reading, especially women.