A fun test would be to have an impromptu meeting in the parking lot and ask the young people to open their cars and turn on their radio's without touching the station. 99% would be listening to hip hop or other dope head music as they parked their cars in the church parking lot. Another fun thing is to turn the volume up where the church can hear the words. Most of it is X rated and the kids will turn the brightest shade of red you've ever seen. If you keep it under a rock, hidden in the dark, everyone is able to pretend they are doing just fine with their spiritual health when they are actually on deaths door. The only problem is when YOU shine a light on it, you are the bad guy. Trust me, I know. And believe me, your child better be Mother Teresa if you do this. I call it being accountable.
As it is now, there isn't much statistical difference between pagans an Christians as far as divorce, adultery, fornication, abortion, alcoholism, drug dependency, etc. As churches accept homosexuality, abortion, and adultery/fornication, a "real" Christian will look more intolerant, crazy, and dangerous. The Bible says they will kill us thinking they are doing "God's Will"( sound like Islam?) When reading Bible passages against abortion and homosexuality become "hate speech", Satan will have free reign in the church. Many European and Canadian churches can't read anti homosexual passages right now. This is, and has been the only reason for hate speech laws. Ach-mini-jihad can speak wherever he wants, but I can't even read Genesis or Leviticus in some churches.
You post makes many great points. Reminds me of a Contemporary Christian song I heard recently. It is called “Stained Glass Masquerade.”