I went through a similar experince with my second born. Mom was only interested in being their ‘friend’. Of course all the problems exhibited by the child were my fault. The school leadership contributed by hiding things from my wife and I. A 13 year old smoking just off campus wasn’t worthy of mention to us. Neither was their knowledge that the kid was sleeping with 19 and 20 year old adults at a friend’s house.
I won’t go into the rest, but nothing in my life made me second guess myself more than going through this. And I finally wound up walking away for my own sanity.
My first marriage and the things I experienced during the journey, make me wonder how in the heck any religious leader could help families, having never been married or raised children.
Thanks for the comments.
I know where your coming from - I was a preacher at the time of all this - It didn’t dent my faith but sure did try my sanity.
Keep Strong
Mel